The Choice

The Choice

I saw a friend yesterday who gave me a book by Edith Eger called The Choice.  It is inspirational, powerful and well worth reading. It got me to thinking that when you break it down, life really is just a  series of choices which lead to events which then determine the course of our lives. Sometimes we choose well and get a response that we are happy with. Other times not so much.
The point is we get a choice. We get to choose. Think about what you have already chosen today:

What time you got up

What you’re wearing

What you’ve eaten

What you’ve said to your partner

Whether you’ve let that guy in the Holden Ute cut in front of you.

Choices matter, and as we dig deeper, they impact more than just how our lives unfolds, they also impact who we become.

Who we become is not measured by what we do, or how much we earn – rather it is by the ‘impact’ we have on others.

In my life, I had a choice.

My childhood and adolescence was one of neglect, abuse and suffering spanning 16 years. While dreadful, the insights and knowledge I have gained since then has been incredible.

Because of how I was raised I could either give in to the trauma I went through daily or I could find a way to make it through to the other side. What I found as a child was that I kept lifting my head and looking up to the sky. I found myself noticing the clouds, the light behind the sun and the shapes that were formed. This took me to a magical place where I was happy and free. Every day I would look up and notice the light, regardless of whether it was day or night. I was always drawn to it and it was always there.

As I became older and the trauma continued it became a habit.

And then as an adult it finally became a choice.

My life reflects this choice in everyday life through noticing the positive in every situation, finding the good in people and seeing what is right with the world VS what isn’t. Living that way gives me many things – which means I get to celebrate daily.

Some people think I’m crazy or unrealistic or false.

Truthfully – I’m just happy.

It works for me you see, because the other way doesn’t.

Living in lack

Being critical

Becoming negative about everything

Feeling victimised

All of this just merged together to bring me down and tear me apart. Making that choice saved my sanity, and it saved my life. Having the light and the angels around me constantly gave me hope and the will to continue.

So really it comes down to a matter of Choice.

I’m happy with mine – are you?

If you want ideas about how to get things moving in a different direction, or simply some support to make a different choice – please feel free to leave a comment.

Gloria Masters
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