Mind Games
Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: we play...
20
Mar
Behaviour
20
Jan
New Year Resolutions
To be honest when I think of people making New Year's resolutions I always silently shudder. To my mind, if you wanted to do something you would have already made...
20
Jun
Finding You
In the process of recovering from your abuse you will notice the impacts on you. Though these differ from survivor to survivor, there is one that is not often recognised, let...
20
May
Being Heard
Wanting your voice heard can sometimes be buried deep within, and therefore not always obvious, you were, after all, taught it wasn’t safe to use it. Probably, anytime you tried you...
22
May
Self-Sabotage
What does it even mean, and where does it stem from? It sounds quite intellectual, but it’s not. It’s basically when we do things that block our success and prevent good things...
30
Sep
Manipulation
Manipulation is the single most powerful tool enablers, gate keepers, and abusers use to shut survivors down.
13
Jun
Flashbacks
With a force more powerful than thunder, they come. With terror inducing, nightmarish strength, they emerge. Unpredictable, unwanted, and definitely unasked for, there is nothing worse
25
Nov
Triggers
Just for the sake of clarity, triggers are responses caused by a particular action or situation, like the war in Afghanistan. Symptoms can include, panic attacks, abject fear, even feeling...
23
Jul
Go High
I was talking to a friend the other day about how difficult it is to deal with people who tend to ‘Go Low’ in their behaviour. By that I mean not...
27
Jun
Boundaries
Whether we know it or not, we have boundaries with every single person we interact with. We decide who we let into our inner circle, outer circle or not at...
01
Feb
Kindness
I think kindness is underestimated, it has a power beyond what we could possibly imagine and an impact that spreads far and wide. Many people practice it without giving it a...
08
Aug
Negative People
I was at dinner the other night with a couple of friends and the topic of negative people arose. Though we saw it differently, we were unanimous on a couple of...