Rest and Recovery
For some reason I can never understand, it is often considered lazy or unproductive to rest. This is unhelpful and old school thinking, especially when you consider that as survivors...
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May
Mindset
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Apr
Being triggered
The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. This means is that we cannot prepare for that which we...
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Mar
Mind Games
Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: we play...
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Feb
Sex and Adult Survivors
The sex lives of survivors is rarely discussed. There are many reasons as to why, but it’s time to look at how the abuse impacted you. Sexual activity as an adult will...
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Jan
New Year Resolutions
To be honest when I think of people making New Year's resolutions I always silently shudder. To my mind, if you wanted to do something you would have already made...
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Dec
It’s Xmas
Getting through Xmas, can be an overwhelming ask for us as Survivors. While many people experience joy and celebration during this time, we can feel the opposite through difficult emotions, painful...
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Nov
Coercive Control
As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming whether it was manipulation, flattery, violence, or other ways, simply so the abuser could...
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Sep
Never Give Up
I dedicate this blog to Malcolm Richards. It’s almost unbelievable how difficult trying to get somewhere with your abuse can be. From hoping that people will understand what it is you have...
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Aug
Puzzle Solved
Ever wondered why you struggle with certain areas in your life? It could be when it comes to speaking out, or joining in, or having confidence, even feeling connected or even...
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Jul
Your Child
Your memories emerging as your child becomes the exact age you were when the abuse occurred, is more common than you might think. As such, it is likely to be...
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Jun
Finding You
In the process of recovering from your abuse you will notice the impacts on you. Though these differ from survivor to survivor, there is one that is not often recognised, let...
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May
Being Heard
Wanting your voice heard can sometimes be buried deep within, and therefore not always obvious, you were, after all, taught it wasn’t safe to use it. Probably, anytime you tried you...