Mind Games
Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: we play...
20
Mar
People
20
Feb
Sex and Adult Survivors
The sex lives of survivors is rarely discussed. There are many reasons as to why, but it’s time to look at how the abuse impacted you. Sexual activity as an adult will...
20
Jan
New Year Resolutions
To be honest when I think of people making New Year's resolutions I always silently shudder. To my mind, if you wanted to do something you would have already made...
20
Sep
Never Give Up
I dedicate this blog to Malcolm Richards. It’s almost unbelievable how difficult trying to get somewhere with your abuse can be. From hoping that people will understand what it is you have...
20
Jan
Being Believed
One of the hallmarks of being a survivor can come with the experience of not being believed. This appears in many forms but usually begins with Are you Sure? He or She...
20
Nov
Having Someone
When you are a survivor having someone who believes you and supports you is gold. Finding at least one person who stands by you and supports you it’s almost indescribable. For some...
15
Jul
Telling your children
When deciding to inform your children about your childhood sexual abuse, it's important to approach the conversation with care, taking into account their age, emotional maturity, and ability to comprehend...
22
May
Self-Sabotage
What does it even mean, and where does it stem from? It sounds quite intellectual, but it’s not. It’s basically when we do things that block our success and prevent good things...
30
Nov
Surviving Xmas
Sometimes for survivors, Xmas can feel traumatic, anxiety provoking and a sense of dread can descend. I know that for some of us, the worst of experiences occurred over this timeframe.
31
Oct
Broken Pieces
Sometimes as survivors we feel like we are made of broken pieces. Seeing a glass fall to the floor and shatter, noticing the shards lying on the floor
27
Jun
Boundaries
Whether we know it or not, we have boundaries with every single person we interact with. We decide who we let into our inner circle, outer circle or not at...
29
May
Keeping the Secret
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fhS8LF5nAo This youtube video is invaluable in explaining why adult survivors of child sexual abuse struggle to speak out. A very informative and powerful watch. Children who are sexually abused are told...